In A Hurry?
The very reason why we sometimes fail is because we put some things into haste, that later constitutes wastes.
If Journalism is the so-called 'Literature in A Hurry', then there is this concept deemed as 'Feeling in A Hurry' --- LOVE.
Seeing how felicitous relationships of contemporary epoch have undergone through times, we used to be envious; might as well, ambitious --- forwardly looking to romantic episodes of our life. Noticing many couples preparing for their wedding, we can't help grumbling on when will be ours. Thus, we try to immediately find our dream partner and badly grasp this person by our arms; for true love is something that we've been waiting for a long time. Perchance, some execute tactics that will hastily catch their dream partners straightaway. Actually, it's just proper if a relationship went through wholesome courtship. But what if it's not? What if it began so fast? What if it started with a mischievous kiss or the worst --- hook up? Then this calls for a red alert!
Inevitably, there really come times when we request both God and Universe to let us meet our 'destiny' at the most urgent time possible. Constant prayers. Constant hopes. Constant wishes. Constant believings. Holding to thin line of possibility from nowhere. For sure, we have this habit of sensing every person we encounter every day. Trying to sense if the one we used to be with yesterday or the one we talk to today is the answer to our consistent request for a loving partner. Also, we try to imagine having our dream partner 'till forever. Both laughing to wise-cracked jokes. Both dreaming of establishing an unbreakable bond. Both of you growing old together and helping each other as you walk through narrow and compressed paths. Bearing these moving pictures in mind, we could actually compose a film of our own love life. And of course, both of you living happily ever after. A love story that fits with fairy tales on story books. So horrible that we sometimes live within our expectations. Forgetting that in reality, love is not always a fairy tale but at some instances, the other way. It's just disemboldening that love, for some, is always about 'having a lifetime partner'; and that's it. What important is to be with our dream partner no matter what --- whether via right or wrong means. Once we felt this unusual 'lab-dab' of our heart towards someone, we easily fell in love. We did not even analyze what was the real meaning of butterflies clumsily fluttering around our stomach and heart shapes forming on our eyes. We carelessly engaged ourselves to the idea of having our dreamboy/girl as our realtime partner, without considering if the one we badly love feels the same way.
It is also important to note that love is at various clines --- be it just a crush, puppy love or true love. This implies that not all love-at-first-sights really mean true love to pursue. We couldn't actually conclude that what we feel is just right and the person, who generated that peculiar beat of our heart, is the right one for us. Once we kept on pushing through what we believe was right based on just subjectivity, then it is possible that we became daunted in the end as our assumptions were found to be unfeasible.
Besides, what do you think was the reason behind short-term love stories? Well, one of the noteworthy answers here is hasty engagement to a relationship, which poses hasty outset and usually ends up with a hasty finale. The problem then is we lend our ears just to our heart, of what we want. What about the insights of our mind? What about the right thing? Ostensibly, mind is ignored in the game of love.
Yes; perhaps, heart beats louder in our head than mind does. We, however, should still rely to our mind. Our mind is in-charge to weigh values of things. Henceforth, we would be leastwise capable of repudiating the probability of pain while aiming possibility of pleasure at just extent.
It's just that sometimes, we can't insist our feelings the way we want it. Aside from the fact that we would be hurt, we would just also let the one we love partake to this stake of pain. It's not always us who tend to be victims here. We are hurt for we chose and let ourselves to be hurt, though we already knew that menace was behind bushes.
Love is a sort of patience and moderation. Like anything, love is preceded by a long-term process. Having procedures and processes means to come up with an ideal outcome in apropos with our goal set in advanced. We want to be loved; and it's our goal, right? Then let every detail of romanticism flows upon the way it should. Likewise, though we have to work for it, love takes time. The matter at stake is, without a doubt, something that can light up our whole world; something that can metamorphose our life into spectral and flavorful heights. But as what folks are used to saying, just 'chillax!'
The very reason why we sometimes fail in love is because we put it into haste, that later constitutes wastes.
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